In this seemingly civilized society, have you ever felt a kind of malice that cannot be expressed in words?
Perhaps it’s unwarranted abuse on the internet, inexplicable difficulties from colleagues in the workplace, or even unreasonable customers in the service industry. These “evils of the grassroots”
The most shocking part is that those who commit evil are often not great villains; they might be your next-door neighbors or ordinary office workers. Their motives for doing evil are humble to the point of absurdity:
Merely to “kill time” or “seek psychological pleasure”
Facing this pervasive banality of evil, should we continue to be the “nice guy” who pleases everyone, or should we learn to establish the boundaries of a strong person?
Banality of Evil: Malice Often Comes from Boredom and Jealousy
The so-called “Banality of Evil” is characterized by its “ordinariness”. These people do not have fierce faces; they commit evil because of collective laziness towards the truth.
Have you noticed that most people throw stones simply because they see others throwing them?
This deliberate misleading and fabrication of illusions is precisely to gain that twisted psychological superiority on a false moral high ground. This “causeless evil” exists just like collective karma.
We must understand a truth:
Evil peopleusually dare not bully thestrong; they specifically target the “weak”.
If you act like a pushover, they will continue to bully you.
Therefore: Instead of begging for the kindness or love of others, it is better to make yourself strong enough to make people “fear” (awe) you.
Why You Don’t Need to Be Liked, But Need to Inspire “Awe”?
Writer Li Ao once mentioned a profound revelation:
People’s desire for love is cheap and humble. Instead of expecting everyone to like you, it is better to make people fear you.
The “fear” here does not refer to the intimidation of power, but the meaning of “Awe and Love” in Buddhism. The ideal interpersonal state should be like a disciple’s attitude towards the Buddha:
Feeling awe (daring not to offend) because of the Buddha’s perfection and majesty, and admiration (wanting to be close) because of his wisdom and compassion.
True security should not be pinned on the kindness of others. When you have strong “concentration power” (Samadhi), external praise or blame cannot shake you.
When the other party knows they “cannot deceive you” and “cannot afford to provoke you”, malice will naturally dissipate.
Cultivating the Inner Defense Mechanism of the Strong
How to cultivate a soul that even malice dares not look directly at? You can try the following specific cultivation methods:
| Method | Explanation |
|---|---|
| 1. Neural Disconnection | Facing external evaluations, whether praise or slander, practice looking at them like “a vegetarian looking at braised pork”. You know it is meat, you even know it smells good, but your nervous system will not generate “appetite” (emotional reaction) at all. Let cognition and emotion be completely separated, so malice cannot penetrate your protective net. |
| 2. First Thought Causal Calculation | When a shock occurs, the first thought should not enter an emotional reaction, but immediately activate “causal calculation”. Ask yourself: “Why did it happen? What is the origin?”. When your brain is busy calculating data and analyzing causes, emotions cannot hijack your consciousness, and you can maintain a calm observer perspective. |
| 3. Physical Decomposition Perspective | This is a method to break the myth of appearance. Reduce the other party to matter (such as protein stacking, skeletal structure). Through “Skeleton Meditation” or physical decomposition (such as imagining the other party is an aggregate of 376 chicken breasts), eliminate excessive obsession or fear of “people” and return to calm material observation. |
Becoming Strong is the Greatest Compassion for Your Own Life
Becoming strong is not to defeat others, but to understand yourself truthfully.
True strength is being maximally responsible in every rising thought.
When you possess the cultivation of “outwardly vigorous and decisive (means), inwardly immovable (state of mind)”, you will no longer be a victim in the flood of malice, but a sober observer and master.
Stop begging for cheap approval. Give yourself a soul strong enough to find that immovable “concentration power” in this chaotic world.
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